Comments on: Passive Activism http://www.robustmcmanlypants.org/blog/2010/03/10/passive-activism/ Camo Pants with a Lavender Fringe Tue, 24 Jan 2012 19:14:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Michael http://www.robustmcmanlypants.org/blog/2010/03/10/passive-activism/comment-page-1/#comment-14065 Michael Wed, 10 Mar 2010 21:18:28 +0000 http://www.robustmcmanlypants.org/blog/?p=1073#comment-14065 I think, on reflection, that just being actively present was the appropriate response, yeah. I did get to let her know that I was paying attention, as when we first got on the bus I jostled to get on first, then stepped back and pointedly invited her to get on <em>first</em>, then got on after her to put myself between them. When I did that she made eye contact and gave me a slightly exasperated "please can I just be late to fucking work today?" smile. I think, on reflection, that just being actively present was the appropriate response, yeah. I did get to let her know that I was paying attention, as when we first got on the bus I jostled to get on first, then stepped back and pointedly invited her to get on first, then got on after her to put myself between them. When I did that she made eye contact and gave me a slightly exasperated “please can I just be late to fucking work today?” smile.

]]> By: Hamilton-Lovecraft http://www.robustmcmanlypants.org/blog/2010/03/10/passive-activism/comment-page-1/#comment-14064 Hamilton-Lovecraft Wed, 10 Mar 2010 19:39:10 +0000 http://www.robustmcmanlypants.org/blog/?p=1073#comment-14064 IMO you certainly didn't do anything wrong - letting dude know that Disapproving McManlyPants is Disapproving was a good low-end option. I probably wouldn't have done more, because I find that by the time I finish my evaluation of a situation like that, it's changed enough that I feel like I have to re-evaluate (I'm really slow at determining appropriate social responses to things). Were you able to catch her eye during this to let her know you were on her side, or anything? IMO you certainly didn’t do anything wrong – letting dude know that Disapproving McManlyPants is Disapproving was a good low-end option.

I probably wouldn’t have done more, because I find that by the time I finish my evaluation of a situation like that, it’s changed enough that I feel like I have to re-evaluate (I’m really slow at determining appropriate social responses to things).

Were you able to catch her eye during this to let her know you were on her side, or anything?

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